After 3 years in primary care I can confidently say that it can be incredibly rewarding—but it can also follow you home if you let it. Between never-ending patient inbox messages, charting with strict turnaround times, and the emotional weight of caring for patients all day, I like many PA’s, have found myself struggling to disconnect. Learning how to set boundaries in practicing medicine has helped me in protecting my energy so I can keep showing up professionally and personally.
Here are five practical tips that I use every day to help draw that line.
1. Create a Hard STOP to Your Workday
Primary care will take as much time as you give it. So set a realistic end-of-day boundary and honor it. That might mean deciding, “I stop charting at 6:00 PM, no matter what,” or blocking the last 30 minutes of your clinic schedule for wrap-up. For me – that looks like an admin block the last 30 minutes to catch up on charts and leaving by 5:30pm at the latest to pick up my dog from daycare. (For reference, my current clinic is open 7:30-4:30pm).
Perfection is the enemy here. As a type A, chronic people-pleaser myself, I have had to learn that done is often good enough—and tomorrow is another clinic day.
2. Build a Charting System You Can Stick To
Most after-hours stress comes from charts hanging over your head. Whether it’s dot phrases, templates, or voice dictation, find a system that works for you, not just what your clinic suggests.
The goal isn’t zero charts (rare in primary care); it’s fewer charts stealing your evenings and mental space.
For me, that looks like using an AI scribe (provided by my organization – highly recommend negotiating for this if not already offered) and lots of dot phrases. I ‘prechart’ by dictating a brief chart review into the AI scribe before entering the room, try to verbalize any abnormal physical exam findings in case I need to come back to finish the chart later, and try to finish (and close if possible) before going into the next room. Taking the extra 2-3 minutes after each visit means I am staying on top of most of my charts throughout the day rather than trying to play catch up at lunch and end of day. I also have dot phrases for all my routine patient counseling on diabetes, hypertension, normal lab results, etc and a standard template I pull with my routine physical exam and a ‘CYA’ statement for the use of my AI scribe.
3. Set Boundaries With the Infamous Inbox
Patient portals and EMRs have blurred the lines between work and home. If possible, turn off notifications after hours or remove work email from your personal phone. If you can’t, create a firm rule: no responding unless it’s truly urgent.
Remember—most messages can wait until clinic hours. You are not on call 24/7 just because the inbox exists. Follow your workplace policy, but grow comfortable with saying “it sounds like you have a lot of concerns we need to address, I would like to schedule an appointment to appropriately address those concerns”. I personally think ‘inbox’ medicine has been very inappropriately normalized. Unless you are paying for DPC (direct primary care) or concierge style care, you must make an appointment if the concern is not following up on something you already saw the me/provider for. Any other career (think lawyer), bills for their time. Why is primary care any different? Our time is valuable as well, especially when you have nearly 1,000 patients on your panel. It is physically impossible to message and care for all of them solely through the virtual space.
4. Develop a “Turn It Off Ritual” After Work
Your brain needs a signal that the workday is over. That might be a walk, a workout, a podcast on the drive home, or even changing clothes immediately when you get home.
You have to have something that consistently tells your nervous system its time to switch out of “provider mode” and back into human mode—which is essential for reducing burnout.
For me that looks like listening to audiobooks or upbeat music on the way home (educational content and podcasts are reserved for the mornings), picking up my fur-baby from daycare, changing into workout clothes, and getting a quick sweat in. Then I go home, shower off, change into pjs, eat my meal prep, and do something fun – watch an episode of a show, video games, etc. Then I try to avoid screens within an hour of bed and read a book or journal (I try to avoid doom-scrolling on work-nights).
5. Let Go of What You Can’t Control
In the wise words of Elsa: Let It Go. Primary care comes with emotional weight: patients who don’t follow your medical advice, social issues you can’t fix no matter how much you want to, system limitations that frustrate the heck out of everyone. Caring deeply doesn’t mean carrying it all.
You showed up. You did your best with the time and resources you had. That has to be enough—for today.
Working in rural medicine with an elderly population means a lot of health problems that I simply can’t fix. And that has been a hard pill to swallow (pun intended). But, I journal, I’ve started therapy, and I remind myself that I have tried and will continue to try my hardest to give the best care possible to my patients.
Final Thought
I’ve learned that leaving work at work is a skill, not a personality trait. It takes practice, intention, and sometimes uncomfortable boundary-setting—but it’s worth it. A rested, present Court the PA-C is a better clinician and a happier human.
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